Signs of Mom Burn Out


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Is it possible to be burned out when you are a mom?  How could taking care of kids lead to burn out?  You may think, “Sure I am exhausted, but I signed up for that when I became a mom.”  That may be true…in the first few months of motherhood.  But constantly being exhausted is a sign of being burned out especially if you have been sleeping.  Here are some other signs to be aware of:

Feeling exhausted even if you slept

Not enjoying activities you once did

Yelling or snapping at your kids

Reduced enjoyment of you kids

“Zoning out” in mindless activities

Physical symptoms such as backaches or tension headaches

Sleeping problems (too much/too little)

Feeling overwhelmed

Lack of motivation

Doing too much of an unhealthy habit (such as drinking, smoking, shopping, eating, etc.)

It is not uncommon to experience some of these symptoms in motherhood.  Everyone has days where getting dressed is a task that is too overwhelming when you were up all night with a sick child. There is concern when you experience some of these symptoms over a long period of time or most days out of the week.  These symptoms can lead to ongoing problems and stress.  High levels of stress is not healthy for the body.  It also can create an environment that you may not want for yourself or your family

How to overcome burnout as a mom? 

The first statement is often, “where would I find the time”?  This can be followed up with “I am home with the kids all day” or “I work and only get to see my kids for a few hours before bed”, “I do not have the money to go to the gym”.  These are just some of the statements that I often hear and these statements are very true.  But what else is true is that chronic stress is unhealthy.  Chronic stress leads to mental health concerns such has anxiety or depression.  In addition, it can lead to physical health problems such as a weakened immune system.  And let’s face it, no mom has time to get sick.  We do not get sick days! So although it may be difficult to find time to manage your stress, it may be less of a time and money commitment in the long run.

If you have answered yes to some of the above questions, the first step is to identify the source of stress.  This is different for people.  For example, is it that you are constantly care giving and have no alone time, is it money, is it something in your relationships?  Once you identify the source(s) of stress, develop a plan to handle it if you can.  Again this may be different for people.  If you are struggling because you are constantly with your kids, a plan could be taking Saturday afternoons to yourself or taking a morning to sleep in/have quiet time.  Maybe part of that plan is working through mommy guilt that you need to always be with your kids.

Being burned out is not a weakness, nor is asking for help.  All moms have periods of time that motherhood is overwhelming.  It is impossible to keep up with all that is demanded and expected of being a mom.  Sometimes the best thing to do to reduce stress is to let go of expectations for yourself, your kids and your family.

Other ways to manage your stress include:

Reaching out to supportive people

Limiting time with negative people

Getting enough sleep

Eating healthy foods

Getting exercise

Getting outside

Make a list of things that make you happy and try to do 1 of those every day or at least a few times a week.

Work on letting go of “mommy guilt”

Ask for help

Work on letting go of perfectionism

Talk with a mental health professional or your doctor

Brief therapy can be beneficial for helping with managing signs of stress and mom burn out.  If you feel you could use some assistance with identifying your stress and developing a plan, please contact me about my Mommy’s Time Out Group: A group for moms because you matter too.  This is a 5 week group course.  Come meet other moms, get time for yourself and identify ways that will work for you.  You can find more information here.

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